Had humans been able to translate and interpret the language of animals, birds, and plants, then we would have had a great discussion on them, but works are in progress and we humans know only about humans more than any other species. When it comes to social aspects, and thus we are constrained to limit our discussion on the social aspects of humans.

We shall explore things happening in our society. At first we shall begin our discussion from marriage. Marriage is not only personal, familical, but also a social affair. We shall consider a case. Suppose a person 'A' seeks to marry the daughter of person 'B' but due to social aspects, their discussion of marriage fails. On examining these social aspects closely, we can find numerous social factors like wealth, employment status, career and livelihood plan along with religious factors like wealth, employment status, career and livelihood plan along with religious factors like horoscopic, astrology and the terms that arise thereafter. When these things are consulted, well, without seeking pardon, I must state that no educated person would like to submit a formal proposal as done in academic communities by mentioning C.V. statuses, affiliations, career, and livelihood plans but as a matter of fact, these things are sought either unknowingly and informally or by knowingly without any hesitation. I must admit that this system is traditional and has been handed to us from centuries earlier and actually is good in a sense that it allows any father to choose where he wants his daughter to get married. And we all Nepalese should rejoice in this system that has provided freedom and liberty to both parents and daughters when compared to the 'Swayamvar system as mentioned in Puranas, where the bravest would get the hands of a princess for marriage. Thus I request my readers to consider marriage as a proposal as a bad humor, which upon elaborating would take the form of proposal being either accepted or rejected after the review, where the reviewers would generally be the parents of ladies and lady herself, then the topics of grants in the form of marital cost would be seen to be beared by the family of both bride and bridegroom would certainly find it's value when we discussed marital talks as an formal proposal.

I would like to draw attention to our case again. Suppose the proposed marriage between person 'A' and 'C'-daughter of 'B'gets failed due to failure in the above mentioned proposal system due to factors like career, wealth, future, astrology and rest of things. Then what we can observe in our society is that people generally stop talking to each other, and a new psychological driven factor arises in the mind particularly in the family of ladies, including the parents of the lady and lady herself. Ladies and Gentleman, this is the discussion of our commentary.

Question arises, Did we do anything wrong in asking the hand of the lady for marriage even if the talks were unsuccessful? The answer is 'No'. Are daughters only in their families, and haven't the rest of parents in the world have got daughters? The answer is 'No'. Should peoples remain unmarried thinking that rejection in marriage proposal would deteriorate the relation between two families whose son and daughter were talked to for marital purposes? The answer is 'No' again. Then our question lies, why is the psychological driven factor dominant and eminent in our society, even among the educated, literate, and conscious persons. Our society considers it hard for the parents of both son and daughter to be frank,

open-minded, and have a healthy relationship thereafter. This is the psychological driven factor seen in the families of both 'A' and 'C' as discussed in our example.

Now let us begin our social commentary. Whenever marriage discussion fails we have a bunch of reasons for being rejected. Our Nepalese society is a talkative society in terms of social affairs and peoples fear that their image and prestige that has their roots till their ancestry and expects their legacy to be carried out by their childrens would all go in vain. Thus people hesitate to talk. People hesitating to talk publicly is the matter of our discourse. People can't accept the fact that one of the family was dissatisfied with the other and thus marriage couldn't take place. And had the talks of marriage not prevailed those two families would still be like friends in the society. It's true that by the talks of marriage and after the rejection the two families haven't become enemies of each other, but the communication that used to happen gets perished due to the topics of marriage when we analyze them.

Now let us revisit our second paragraph, where we had talked about a few questions. Our society fails to move on, at least till the date when both the lady and male gets married to another place and their relation as social animal would always pierce due to the rejection which implants into the mind of peoples as a thorn, and our society would always fail to open itself to be a society in the aspect that we see westerners and praise their social behaviour due to our very same psychological driven factor which we mentioned in earlier paragraph. Thus being humorous author suggests that every marriage should be formally proceed with a written proposal as done in academia so that even the rejection rate would decrease, and rejection reasons can be revised for a successful proposal, and even if still the marital talks is rejected it can be considered as a bad joke, to begin start applying for new marital talks with same proposal. This is exactly why matrimonial and social networking sites show personal information and about section;a mini C.V to judge peoples.

-Arjun Dahal
Gauradaha 3, Jhapa